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post Dec 6 2007, 03:32 AM
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So im flipping through the channels(which I don't really watch a lot of tv) and I caught this show about Muslims getting arranged to marry. It kinda baffled me how someone can go ok, here is your male/female marry. I guess if they cant find someone there parents find them someone. This one Muslim had a hot peice of ass arranged for him but she backed out at last minute. Anyways just wanted some toughts you guys had on these arranged marriages. Hope i posted in right section.

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post Dec 7 2007, 09:06 AM
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arranged marriages are not good imo.

i think the ideal way would be for people to not have pre-marital sex, but choose who to get married to.

this will never happen.

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post Dec 7 2007, 09:46 AM
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marriages suck, no matter if voluntary, arranged or forced. I dont say that people shouldnt be allowed to marry at all, but to me this hole concept of promising everlasting love/faith blows big time.

Marriages are a relict from ancient times when the human average lifespan was ~30-40yrs, when women werent equal to man, when the genetic pool was very limited (=probably less temptation), when people searched for such ways to secure/increase their wealth.

Pre-marital sex rocks btw.

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post Dec 7 2007, 10:20 AM
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the expression: "better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all"

should be: ""better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all, but its best to have loved - and not lost it. "

in an ideal world, people dont have to move on, find others. they fall in love, and they stick with that person. how would this be possible? Ever seen a couple that were both virgins before they got together? they are disgusting, all that lovey dovey crap, holding hands etc...but a lot of times if one virgin has sex with a non virgin, the virgin wants to spend 100% of their time with the other one, but the non virgin wants 'space' - this is because they werent a virgin. 99 out of 100 times, these relationships never work out.

each new partner means more baggage. one partner for life = no baggage!

im not saying its horrible, just saying to have a relationship where both people are virgins before they have sex seems pretty ideal. you could both be disgusting together and neither one would say 'jeez give me some space, i'm suffocating!'

which is the cause of a lot of failed relationships.

Now, if someone comes in here and says i have no facts to back this up, I WILL invent the machine that lets you reach through the monitor and punch the other person in the face. lol jk.

It just seems if you post an opinion, people rape you for it not being an airtight logical argument, citing sources, etc.

this is all just my opinion.


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post Dec 7 2007, 11:23 AM
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Let the freaks in the other countries do what they will about marriage... Don't matter to me.

I just wish in USA you were allowed to have multiple wives... that would be sweetness.... Biotch slapping and fighting over who goes to bed with 'the man' at night... fun fun. :thumbsup:

I wouldn't let my 10 wives fight over who's turn it is... I'd just have one huge bed and let them all sleep with me. :D

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post Dec 7 2007, 11:54 AM
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ive read that humans are polygamists by nature...

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post Apr 14 2008, 08:15 AM
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Arranged marriages have less divorce than, how do you say, non-arranged marriages. One could argue this difference is cultural though.

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post Mar 16 2009, 06:02 AM
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let me give u our poit of vew for the arranged marraige thing

its not that a male/female dont have a choise its just that due to our culture and religon we r not alloud to have pre-marraige relations and this is the main reson why we have arrainge marraiges

a guy could chouse any wife he pleases and propuse to here and then its up to here to accept or not

but if he dosent have any one in minde he could ask his family to fined a wif for him and ask for what ever he wonts in a girl (fammily, tall/short, collor, education, ... ext)


and after the get ingaiged they could get to know each other and if they dissagree then they could back up from the maraig or go on with it and this is the only period where they are aloud to make contact even sexualy. but in our culture the sexual contact is after the wedding



and for the multiple wife part. all muslims are ristricted by religon to a max of 4 wifes and its not easy to get married to more then one where in most cases the guy would realy get under preasure from his first wife and here family and most women dont accsept living with a guy who would marrie another women over here.

the couse of allawing the man to marrie more that 1 wife goes back to many things 1 of them is that men go to war in the past and the rate or females to males is around 4-1 were men die in wars and thats the nature of it


hope i cleared the point u were asking about.

note:- my father has 4 wifes but i dont even think of getting married to another women after i saw what he went and is going throu :)

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post Mar 16 2009, 01:26 PM
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